tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7083874656926823982.post678462146829774366..comments2024-03-27T05:40:22.211-05:00Comments on Old Blue Silo: Sometimes I StruggleKelly || Old Blue Silohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06233077834955383902noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7083874656926823982.post-67704284595912857652016-06-29T21:00:37.099-05:002016-06-29T21:00:37.099-05:00Amen. x 10. + Infinity. (I'm bad at math but b...Amen. x 10. + Infinity. (I'm bad at math but basically I like this A LOT.)Adrianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02576262191436609354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7083874656926823982.post-37506672959097132962014-08-13T22:33:19.137-05:002014-08-13T22:33:19.137-05:00Kelly, I just came to your post, two months after ...Kelly, I just came to your post, two months after the fact, via a Facebook post. I so love this. And I love that you're embracing the farmwife title, with all the honor and with all the changes that have come with it over the years. I struggle with trying to be the farmwife my MIL is, while also holding down a full-time job in ag journalism and raising three kids. I constantly remind myself that it has to be ok if I can't keep up. Because I can't. At any rate, well done. And hang in there.Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17168140184654839474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7083874656926823982.post-91190586640218401852014-06-16T11:15:30.565-05:002014-06-16T11:15:30.565-05:00This is a really beautiful post, Kelly. It was int...This is a really beautiful post, Kelly. It was interesting to read from a farmer's wife perspective and hear the struggles you all face. I can't say I understand, because I'm not married to a farmer, but I can imagine it would be difficult in any relationships where one partner's career overtakes both partners' lives. You are NOT a bad blogger (and sound like a damn good farmwife!), I love your blog + think you're always open + honest about important topics in farming :)Caitlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15778097267644699690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7083874656926823982.post-37889250125660388412014-06-14T20:41:07.889-05:002014-06-14T20:41:07.889-05:00I can't say anymore good things about this tha...I can't say anymore good things about this than what have already been said... so I'll just throw this out there. You are most defiantly not the worst country lifestyle blogger, I am! Lol. Because I never blog anymore! But I did make my own curtains recently, but my floors are fairly dirty. To each their own :)J.Rhoadeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08279391530302988346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7083874656926823982.post-72563245878093420442014-06-14T16:15:40.127-05:002014-06-14T16:15:40.127-05:00You always seem to know what to say and when to sa...You always seem to know what to say and when to say it. I think the guys have it a little easier because they just know what their place is whereas we women have a tendency to compare ourselves to others and then we question our own choices and abilities. I know I am constantly struggling trying to figure out what my role will be shortly and where we will end up. But at the end of the day, we are who we are. And there is nothing wrong with that!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15040688047939647428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7083874656926823982.post-30778135398097754982014-06-14T07:17:50.171-05:002014-06-14T07:17:50.171-05:00Your post is very good. I like the reality of thi...Your post is very good. I like the reality of things and I am enjoying your blog as well. Julie @ In Between The Sunsets of Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13485427019835259701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7083874656926823982.post-66467723146129283502014-06-13T15:35:13.540-05:002014-06-13T15:35:13.540-05:00Thank you so much for writing this. I am on the o...Thank you so much for writing this. I am on the other end of the spectrum from many of you - I met my farmer only three months ago, but can't imagine not texting or talking to him daily. I don't think I'll get the farmwife title anytime soon - and that's fine - I'm happy with farm girlfriend LOL. But I have had a hard tendency to see everything through rose colored glasses. This post is so refreshing to bring me back to the present, and realize that farming can be a struggle just like anything else. I don't work due to a disability, but could be responsible for all the accounting, as well as cooking, cleaning, gardening, sewing and canning. So thank you for reminding me that it's not all sunshine and roses!AuntMamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08767757319649205739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7083874656926823982.post-42601276091966230012014-06-13T14:33:17.476-05:002014-06-13T14:33:17.476-05:00Kelly - This really hit home! I needed to read it ...Kelly - This really hit home! I needed to read it and I need to believe it. For me, I married the displaced cowboy who will one day return to the Kansas ranch. With me beside him. I'll be leaving Indiana. It's a decision I consciously made, and one I think of daily. Plus side is you can always come visit us on the ranch if you need some time from the black dirt :) Thank you for this post - JeansBootshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07293773738140625108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7083874656926823982.post-16467766354788339392014-06-13T10:07:42.131-05:002014-06-13T10:07:42.131-05:00Kelly I have been a farm wife for 35 years and I s...Kelly I have been a farm wife for 35 years and I still find myself struggling some days and I have been and will continue no doubt to have those thoughts and feelings that you struggle with now. After long days of baling hay I have been known to warm up a can of beans or ravioli and serve to my husband after he comes home from his off farm, bringing in the mony job, then we will both head out to finish up. I will not lie to you there will be a lot of those tough days but as we laugh while heading out holding hands after eating that warmed up can of beans and know how far we have come and we made it and are stronger for it I smile and am grateful I pushed through and no it was not easy. I still love my farm husband and we are very much equal and he and I have adjusted to this new way of farming. Take care you will make it remember to laugh and forget the little annoying things. Great post. Hug BButtons Thoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05029439906543077861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7083874656926823982.post-52167381149609524272014-06-13T10:05:33.561-05:002014-06-13T10:05:33.561-05:00Kelly I have been a farm wife for 35 years and I s...Kelly I have been a farm wife for 35 years and I still find myself struggling some days and I have been and will continue no doubt to have those thoughts and feelings that you struggle with now. After long days of baling hay I have been known to warm up a can of beans or ravioli and serve to my husband after he comes home from his off farm, bringing in the mony job, then we will both head out to finish up. I will not lie to you there will be a lot of those tough days but as we laugh while heading out holding hands after eating that warmed up can of beans and know how far we have come and we made it and are stronger for it I smile and am grateful I pushed through and no it was not easy. I still love my farm husband and we are very much equal and he and I have adjusted to this new way of farming. Take care you will make it remember to laugh and forget the little annoying things. Great post. Hug BButtons Thoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05029439906543077861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7083874656926823982.post-32580458251126900692014-06-13T09:40:55.430-05:002014-06-13T09:40:55.430-05:00Kelly, this is such a raw, heart-felt post! Comin...Kelly, this is such a raw, heart-felt post! Coming from the camp of being a farmers daughter I can understand and appreciate your struggles. While I'm not a farm wife, rather a seed salesmans wife, there are several struggles that I can TOTALLY relate! Hello clean and orderly house (most likely stems from my Type A personality), keeping my mouth shut (that's not a reality) and the moving issue! I was bitten a long time ago by the travel bug and have a serious case of Wanderlust! I'm always up for something new or an exciting adventure, Matt is not. I do can fruits and veggies from our garden (Matt's little farm!), bake bangin' cinnamon rolls and my apple crumble pie is pretty dang good, line dry our laundry when I can (to save some $$) and knit, but like you said mostly as a hobby and for sentimental reasons... preserving memories of family traditions! <br /><br />Thanks for being open and honest with us to share what you've been going through!The Purple Front Doorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12067587736259448303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7083874656926823982.post-60030150678917936902014-06-13T08:30:52.249-05:002014-06-13T08:30:52.249-05:00Amazing and honest post Kelly! I can so relate to ...Amazing and honest post Kelly! I can so relate to all of the points you made! I still struggle after 10 years, I was just talking to my MIL about this the other day because I was REALLY struggling, and she still struggles after 31 years. Each farm season brings a new season of life and all the struggles and realities along with it. Whether it be adjusting to a new lifestyle, the weather, kids, or for us this season, it was moving in the middle of planting. It literally took my husband and his buddies 3 hours to get every box, that I packed by myself, and all of our furniture moved into our new house. They all sat and ate lunch and then Neil was back in the tractor, and I was left to unpack and set up our new house alone, with 3 excited kids running around. I REALLY struggled this season. But we made it through another season , and there will be many more. Thank you for sharing. It is always reassuring to know that we aren't alone in our struggles as farmwives!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07811306466820544920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7083874656926823982.post-3612810299896700432014-06-12T19:01:53.141-05:002014-06-12T19:01:53.141-05:00This is so great! I laughed, shed a tear and tota...This is so great! I laughed, shed a tear and totally understand. The floors....I will never get past the floors! And let's be real, I am baking a pie once a month to see if I can tackle homemade pie crust but I would really rather make a Moscow Mule in my fancy copper mug! My farmer wife blog post is coming next week. It's been almost a year! Thanks for sharing and being so honest!Katie Glickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15082974101874688400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7083874656926823982.post-19030888863233574712014-06-12T18:36:13.738-05:002014-06-12T18:36:13.738-05:00Well Said Miss Kelly! I don't can; I gave up ...Well Said Miss Kelly! I don't can; I gave up on a garden years ago. I don't hang our clothes on a clothes line because it WAS on the south side of the house, same side as the cow lot, and the majority of our winds come from the south during "hanging out" weather. I get lonely one day and am so excited to be away from people the next. I do bake and cook because in all of our county there is one fast food business and very few restaurants. It is a struggle to learn "on the go" when Steve and his dad have been doing things for years. I could go on, but you have already hit the nail on the head with this post! Great job! Lana's LIfehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05017834155067672555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7083874656926823982.post-69091245039024558622014-06-12T17:12:54.017-05:002014-06-12T17:12:54.017-05:00Great post! I think it is important that we ackno...Great post! I think it is important that we acknowledge our struggles and talk about them. Even though each of us struggle in different ways there are still similarities within the struggle. A post like this is encouraging. Thanks for sharing!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7083874656926823982.post-54367589917555383182014-06-12T16:40:29.566-05:002014-06-12T16:40:29.566-05:00You know I love this post so much :) I think one o...You know I love this post so much :) I think one of the things I struggle with too that I didn't mention was unexpected visitors. Where I come from you call before you come over---you don't just show up. My house isn't always pristine, but I would at least like the opportunity to clean up before company shows up! I have often thought "we will never move, ever" but this (for me) makes me happy. No more house-building, no big move, I truly love where we live and don't want to leave and we might have a vacation home somewhere one day too. You might not be a "housewife" but you are an amazing farm wife. I think we need to define it as it suits us. I know I will never live up to the woman/farm wife my mother-in-law is....I admire her so much, but that's okay. It doesn't work for me and I am who I am. I am glad I don't have to do the hot meal in the field thing, we only do that a few times a year when they're on our land that's about 20 minutes away, but usually it's my MIL that steps up to do that and I'm so thankful to be on a multi-generational farm for that reason!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com